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Most likely now that you’re newly single you’re A. sad,B. hurt, C. upset, or D. all the above. You thought this person was different you saw yourself with this person for the rest of your life. You seen yourself married to him with a beautiful ring, a beautiful home decorated like something out of a catalogue where the lawn looks as if it was on the cover of a spring issue of H0me & Gardens magazine, and 3 beautiful non crying obedient sent from the heavens babies. You thought this person would change or your relationship would get better after many years and overcoming many obstacles. Or maybe you thought he would finally put you first, take a few nights away from the guys and spend a nice romantic date night with you. Maybe you felt he would begin to make time for you in his busy life of indulging in his office or out of town for business. Take a tropical vacation with you no cell phones, no laptop, just genuine quality time and a cocktail. But oh well he didn’t change and sad part he probably never would’ve. It’s his loss he didn’t see how amazing of a woman you are. So Chin up it’s time to MOVE ON.

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Of course, when you go threw a fresh break up it cuts deep and you want to mourn but before you make reservations for one at Ruth Chris to order a dinner portion of lobster mac and cheese extra lobster topped with fresh parmesan cheese and 3 glasses of riesling. Sobbing in your best friend’s lap with a half gallon of Gelato carmel with salted peanut flavor and boring them to death with your break stories and all the things you don’t understand about what went wrong. Walking around in your favorite cotton pj’s hair in a messy bun and no make up playing your sad r&b break up songs. How about you skip that phase and look at the brighter picture and celebrate your new found freedom to explore true happiness! Let’s prepare for a new chapter a fresh beginning!

Where do you begin do you ask? How about we skip all the living and learning cliche’s and not complicate it. Do everything you missed out on when you were in a relationship. Catch up on some girl time with your friends. Have a girls night out like a chic dinner with your close girlfriends that you didn’t have time for because you were so stuck on working out your relationship. But don’t bring up your ex he’s the past and no one else cares about him anymore he doesn’t exist in your personal life so don’t make him a personal topic.

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Another cure for the fresh break up bug is a night out on the town with your best friend! But before you go out that night be sure to go give yourself a day of pampering to get all of that grey gloom of sadness and break up off. Your skin is going to need that glow from Vitamin D so go get yourself a Vitamin D facial and exfoliate when you get home with your favorite sugar scrub and moisturize with your fruitiest body butter. Then that night beat your makeup to the gawds, throw on your sexiest Herve Bandage dress, do your hair in a sleek sexy pony tail or beach waves, nice sexy strappy sandal heels your, sexiest dior or gucci guilty perfume, and go out to your favorite lounge and dance the night away. Ready for a little a boo? Not a Beau (bae) but just someone to kiss with no strings attached find one and invest in some sexy lingerie with detachable strings ha ha. You deserve it. But the best way to curve a break up is to workout get that body back right and make him see what he missed and can’t ever have again. Go buy you a few chic and poppin nike workout gear and sneakers and go burn the sadness away.

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You are going to still feel some type of way if you see him or hear about him and a new found love interest but don’t worry about it too much or let it get to you too much because you are amazing. The person who is for you and believe me their are so many men who would love a woman like you in his life who will acknowledge your greatness. Who will treat you like the queen that you are who will send you your favorite roses just because its Saturday or your favorite chocolate covered strawberries from edible arrangements because he appreciate the sweetness you embody as a woman. Who will encourage you and support you in all of your dreams and endeavors. Who will buy you the newly released christian louboutin fall pumps because he thought it would look good on you. Or text you randomly to wear something nice tonight because he’s made reservations at your favorite restaurant. HE’S OUT THERE & you will meet him as soon as you’re ready! But until that time comes work on being a better you making yourself happy. What’s the best part of being single its now all about you and no one else and you’re now able to be stingy with your time. Your fabulous and single baby enjoy it